One of the biggest problems today is the rise of men who aren't being men. I'm talking about weak men who hold pathetic beliefs & attitudes meant to placate women for the sole purpose of trying to get women to like them. These males will agree with what women say or sugarcoat things that they otherwise wouldn't, had they been speaking to a guy. When asking them for advice regarding women/relationships, they tend to regurgitate the same old Hollywood garbage that you hear all the time like "tell her how you feel" or "treat her well and she'll fall in love with you" or "never argue with a woman", etc. None of these by themselves are inherently incorrect, but the application of them in addition to their wording are completely wrong, and due to the current social climate, men interpret these sayings in ways that cause them to lose all dignity and self-respect that they have. It just ends up emasculating them. This advice only works for men who are already masculine i.e. attractive. It does NOT work for men who aren't. For example, when men are told "tell her how you feel", most interpret that as spilling your guts out to her right off the bat and hoping she'll like you back. This is pathetic, and honestly a bit creepy (especially if she doesn't really know you that well). The same goes for "treating her well" in the hopes she falls in love with you (or desire you more if you're already in a relationship with her); men don't interpret it as taking care of her and simply not being a jerk, they interpret it as being a doormat for her and castrating themselves so that they're essentially her slave. And "don't argue with her" ends up getting morphed into never standing up for yourself nor leading her in the relationship (unpopular opinion: men are meant to lead & women are meant to follow; this is especially true for relationships. Note that this does not mean you disregard her opinions, it only means that you as a man have to take charge and that in the end, the decisions are ultimately made by you).

I don't fully blame men who say these things and/or follow them because they're normalized by mass media. Whether it's an anecdote on social media or books & movies in entertainment media, you always see the dynamic between men and women as the man buying her flowers while they walk on the beach or some sort of sweet gesture like that. In other words, it's the romance that's emphasized, with the woman being the main beneficiary in this. Hence, men are duped into believing this is how you get a woman to like you.

In reality, it should be the wittiness, the smooth finesse, the teasing & lighthearted playfulness, etc. that should be emphasized, with the man being the main leader in all of this. This is what actually builds attraction. Any romance thereafter is simply a cherry on top. It's what makes women go "awww", not what makes them want your seed inside of them. When it comes to intersexual dynamics, sexual attraction is more important than romance because you cannot have romance without attraction. Lust is greater than love. Providing "emotional support" and sharing your "feelingzzz" is not what makes her attracted to you, it's what lands you in the friendzone and makes her look at you as one of her girl friends. You're essentially a gay best friend because there's no attraction involved. Even if there is some attraction, doing these things will oftentimes lower your value as a man in her eyes because, depending on what you say & how you say it, it can show weakness. And women would rather be with a strong abusive man than a weak "nice" man. That's why women will always talk about how bad their ex was and how they want sweet & sensitive guys, yet still keep going back to her ex or falling in love with the same jerks just like him who end up hurting her again and again—it's because at the very least, those men aren't weak. But that's a topic for another post.

I'm gonna wrap this up with telling the men who read this to start being more masculine. Don't be afraid of a woman not liking you just because you share a different opinion than her or because you don't want to upset her for telling her she did something wrong. Don't alter your life, your beliefs, your opinions, the conclusions you'd come to, or anything at all just because you don't want to upset your wife (much less some random woman). Stop kowtowing to the whims of women because you think they're fragile and innocent little creatures who can do no wrong. Stand up for yourself and don't be afraid to argue back like you would a guy. Chances are they'll actually respect you more for it because it shows that you have a backbone—and women can't really love a man they don't respect. Not just that, but it shows dominance. And while it may sound uncouth, women oftentimes do want to be "put in their place" so to speak, because they want to feel your dominance. Sometimes they just express it the wrong way.