It was originally a comment of mine which I made it to be a post now, so some brothers on here can read and really ponder upon it.

But you! You the Muslim man, who abstained from haram, lowered his gaze, avoided free mixing, prayed jummua, studied and established himself financially after years of toiling and stressing

You gotta pay the mahr.

You gotta pay for the wedding.

You gotta take on the financial responsibility of providing for her for the rest of your marriage.

But a Kaphir got it all for free.

Now you will have the "jUsT hAvE gAmE/fRaMe" or "jUsT kEeP hEr iN HeR pLaCe" bros talking about their bs. I was reading a post where a guy blames men if their gf/wives cheated on them. He's like "you didn't have enough game or frame or w/e to keep her around."

This tweet was ratioed like crazy, and the top reply was something like, "If a woman cheats on you, that was just her real self all along. You were just too blind to see it, and she exposed her true nature after awhile rather than early on. Rather than being heartbroken, thank God that your eyes have now became open"

Alot of Muslim men I know, the good ones, who abstain from all Haraam things, lower their gaze, have good high paying careers lined up for them, but because they don't have any experience with women, they fail to understand female nature, which in the end bites them.

They think that all women are so pure, commited no acts of fahisha (things like Zina etc), and are barbie like princesses who only think of good, and who are so "soft, good-hearted" people, and that, they deserve to be treated with such honor and respect just because they're women. Unfortunately, these types of men while they're good in majority of the aspects such as the Deen, character and finances and all, they have this mentality. And the reality is, because of their shyness and being introverted/nerdy type who only studied studied and studied, and who are not exposed to the reality of female nature, should read the books such as Ihya-ul-um-Deen (The chapter of marriage) about female nature by classical scholars. They should maintain their gaze and rather, should read up on what classical scholars of the past had to say about majority of women and the female nature.

If alot of men started understanding how women really think, and their inner-hidden actions, majority of men would lose all hope in life. It would be such a shock to them that, their purpose which is to go to school, study hard, make alot of money and marry "the one" would need to be all rethought. Alot of them would just lose all purpose and the drive and ambition of why they're doing everything in the first place. Which is to be successful and have status, so they can marry a woman.

As I mentioned in my other post, I was playing basketball with some Kafir men, and this guy knows I'm a Muslim. One of them goes like to me, "You're a Muslim eh? Oh man, Muslim girls are just too fun. I had one of them with the thing they wear around their heads, and oh man she was a wild one in bed. Dated her for awhile, but she broke up with me because her parents were arranging her marriage, from her home country." I asked, "Which country she was from?" He was like "Pak-istan."

This is the unfortunate reality of our pious, shy, who always thought good of women brothers, who will eventually marry these people who have a long and damaged past.

Majority of men can't handle the harsh truth. They can't handle the opposite of the lies which they have been brought up by, of, "Women are the good natured, soft, pure gender, who are so nice and are Disney princess Barbie's who just wanted to be treated nicely, and then everything will be fine and dandy, and who don't have the tendency to commit any wrong or even think about it."

This is what Muslim men or any man wishes was the case. But when we all see the harsh reality of the divorce court's and how 80-90% of divorces are initiated by women, and how 90% of the men are treated by women who aren't 6ft tall, don't have high status, or aren't rich but still have jobs which are needed in society for it to be functioning (which is mostly done by men from construction, Majority of trades and everything) (All the dirty work) it then shouldn't suprise you, why we're headed the way we're headed. Majority of women who are young, who are on social media showing their beauty/bootie and who have many men fueling their egos in comments and DMS have such inflated egos to such a point that, I recently saw a video where some south asian guy asks a woman for directions and the first thing she says is, "I'm sorry I prefer taller and muscular men." And he's all shocked and was like, "Ma'am, I was just asking for directions" and then she walks away with attitude and the walking style/face of "who are you even to talk with a girl like me!"

It has come to a point where majority of women think because they're getting so much attention from men, they are now some nazthubillah angel like creature who deserve to be worshipped 24/7 when in reality, other than her beauty she has nothing. Majority of men are running society, and if all men who work in trades, garbage collection, construction, oil rigs, in the docks and much more were to quit, society would collapse in a second. Yet, women are most affected and "oppressed".

Men don't know their value, and they will never know because society has done a great job to view and utilize a man as a disposable creature to use, abuse, drain to the max and then to let it die. Women need Chad and Tyrone's to be dìcked down by, and to have the emotional fun and games drama when they're young. As they get older, they then need Dr Amjad or the high paid tech Asad to save the day, and be the reliable man who does everything for her, while not knowing how many guys had their whip cream on her face for free. And alot of men think that "Chad's" and "Tyrone's" are having the most fun. While the reality is, indeed they're having alot of casual sèx, but majority of it is so meaningless to them that they themselves are even more "woken" when it comes to female nature than majority of men. When they have legit wife's and GFS of other men wanting to cheat with them, this makes them terrified of even trusting a woman for LTR. So that's why alot of these men remain unmarried and just keep spinning plates cause they understand 99% of women are unfaithful. Chad's and Tyrone's have a whole set of problems of their own. Even they're not happy.

The government needs men to draft for war, so they can send em off to Die, and if you think your country "cares" about you, they're least bothered about you, even if you're "serving" your country. Recently, the US rather then releasing a federal US spy agent who was caught and imprisoned in Russia, for a Russian criminal imprisoned in the US, they rather traded a female blàck basketball player who once had kneeled down and disrespected the US national anthem, and who was imprisoned in Russia for carrying drugs. You know why they freed or I mean exchanged/traded her with the horrifying Russian criminal? Because she fits the mainstream narrative and the agenda. She's black, a woman, and all that, and they left the US spy there to rot and die, who genuinely was serving his country and wasn't caught for something silly like carrying drugs. Rather, he was putting his own life on the line for a country who doesn't even give 2 craps about him! They didn't trade him because he doesn't fit the mainstream narrative as he's a straight, white male. If you really think your country will "be there for you" oh my, you're in absolute delusion. They need men like you to sacrifice your life for their own mistakes and endless wars.

And after you die in war, they'll do some small funeral for you, and then you'll be forgotten in no time, while your wife will marry up some other dude and move on and your kids will barely ever know who you were. For the government, you're a useful tool to pay taxes, keep the economy running, have some children who eventually after a divorce (which happens 50% of the time) will be in the custody of the woman, and will eventually turn up to be the prime example of the LGBTQ queer agenda and the agenda of the mainstream narrative/media because of lack of proper parenthood. Single mother households is one of the leading causes for children who go to jail, or are involved in all the sketchy stuff. This is your reality, and while you struggle to pay off the alimony, and barely ever get to see/know your kids, one day you'll eventually die with a heart attack and tax bills. The government won't even leave you then, and won't let you die in peace with them tax bills. There is only one entity which is worth to die for, that is only for Allah SWT. And the reward is enormous and your whole Akhirah is made.

For alot of men, it's really a brutal reality, and a very unfair world. No wonder why so many Hadeeth explicitly mention women will form majority of Jahannam. When you look at the modern world, it all makes sense as to why that's the case. But there is one positive thing to look at. And that is, we have hope. Alhamdulillah we are Muslims, and we have Iman and tawakkul in Allah SWT. And that hope is the Akhirah, and as long as men remember their ultimate purpose which is to please Allah SWT, do their faraidh and good, in this temporary life, they will InshAllah surely be granted Jannah and many Hoors. And the best thing? It will be all forever.