Disclaimer: Whenever we do anything, we do them for the Sake of Allah SWT above all. This alone should outweigh any and every reason for all that we do (and don't do). The intent and purpose behind this post (along with any of the others) isn't to make anyone jaded and hate women; it's to wake us all up from the lies we've been taught growing up about how relationships truly are (and aren't). This post in particular wishes to drop some "black pills" from some Islamic sources as proof of the legitimacy of the black pill. That being said, I do not agree with much (maybe even most) of the black pill, and will be making a post in the future pointing out flaws in it. In any case, let's jump in:

Narrated `Aisha:

Sahih al-Bukhari 5792

Funnily enough, when I first read these narrations, I thought she was referring to penis size lol but I knew that I might've been projecting idiomatic expressions from our time onto 6th century Arabia; so I asked around to see if that's what she actually meant. It turns out she didn't specifically mean that, but rather sexual virility/prowess in general. It's still possible that penis size is inclusive within the meaning of her statement, though.

In any case, the black pill here is that your sex game matters, and that includes how long you can last, how well you dominate her, how easily you make her orgasm, etc. And to those of you who say that we shouldn't talk about these things because they're "uncouth" (or whatever excuse you use as a cover for your squeamishness & weak cowardice when it comes to confronting & talk about these issues), understand this:

لا حياء في الدين

That aside, it's important to note that she wasn't saying these things because she genuinely felt he couldn't satisfy her, but rather because she wanted to go back to Rifa'a. The sexual satisfaction thing was just an excuse, and the Prophet SAW knew this, as they hadn't actually consummated the marriage yet. I also feel compelled to inform anyone reading this that the reason why the Prophet SAW told her that she cannot go back to Rifa'a unless she became intimate with AbdurRahman Az-Zubair wasn't because he was forcing her to stay married to someone she wanted and was thus oppressing her because Islam supposedly oppresses women (this is what Islamaphobes say to slander Islam); the reason was because the Prophet SAW knew that intimacy is what brings couples closer together. She might say he wasn't sexually satisfying her, but she doesn't actually know that because she was never intimate with AbdurRahaman bin Az-Zubair to begin with. In other words, don't preemptively call it quits just because you impulsively want something else right away. Instead, actively try making it work out first. Most couples today don't do this (particularly on women's side) due to individualism and the "you go gurl!" culture that leaves women single and childless at the age of 45 with nothing to show for it but a lackluster career they don't even really want.

Anyway, I used a different hadith referring to this same incident in another post of mine (the third hadith), but didn't mention this narration because I wanted to use it to show a black pill. Please note that the difference in narrations is due to different narrators recounting the same event; that means that the variations in these hadiths differ in the same way multiple people recalling the same event differ with how they describe said event. By seeing all variations of a hadith (alongside their respective authenticities) are we best able to accurately determine the full details of a given event.

And she, in whose house he was, sought to seduce him. She closed the doors and said, "Come, you." He said, "[I seek] the refuge of Allah. Indeed, he (i.e. her husband) is my master, who has made good my residence. Indeed, wrongdoers will not succeed."

Qur'an 12:23-34

Prophet Yusuf AS. He was so beautiful and attractive that the women were cutting themselves without realizing because of how stunned they were at his beauty/attractiveness. I really don't think much needs to be said regarding this. Some people may say that he was a Prophet of Allah SWT and so this is clearly an outlier of a situation that can't be generalized. However, this assertion fails to consider that while his beauty is an extreme outlier, the nature of the women's reaction to it was not. The main thing I'm trying to say is that this type of a reaction from women is not specific to Prophet Yusuf AS. Sure, most women aren't going to get mesmerized to such an extent that they cut their fingers off without realizing, but the aspect of their fitra making them lose control over themselves towards men they find physically attractive is preeminent to most (if not all) other variables. And that is what the black pill is: Women have a pre-selection that, especially in today's time, is based largely around looks, and particularly in ways that (seemingly) cannot be changed; and if you do not pass this criteria, nothing else matters in terms of your social skills,

I will reiterate that I disagree with much, if not most of the black pill. All I'm doing is relaying to you, the reader, information regarding what it is. With that being said, that does NOT mean that ALL of it is false. There is definitely some truth to the claims they make. I may discuss these in future posts, InshaAllah.

Next is the story of Julaybeeb RA. He was short in height, deformed in appearance, poor, of unknown lineage (i.e. bastard), children of Madinah would tease & mock him, and few (if any) would allow him to sit in their company. He was shunned by society. One day, he told the Prophet SAW about his plight. The Prophet SAW asked a family for their daughter in marriage, and once it was found to be Julaybeeb the daughter was being asked to marry, her mother was completely against it. The daughter, however, heard what happened and said that she would marry him because anything the Prophet SAW asks is of goodness. In the end, she married Julaybeeb RA, and he died as a martyr killing 7 of the kuffar; the Prophet SAW made du'aa for her and she was the most Blessed of the Ansar according to a sahaba.

Sources:

The story of the ugly man (The khatib is Bilal Assad)

Story of Julaybib RA and the most beautiful Woman

The Marriage of Julaybeeb

The Authentic Narrations about Julaybeeb (رضي الله عنه)

What I wanted to point out is the obvious—he wasn't able to get married except by the Will of Allah SWT, whereby the Prophet SAW had to ask for marriage on his behalf. Standalone, he wasn't able to get married and it was solely due to the surface-level factors. In today's time where people are even more superficial and materialistic, the weight of these factors are amplified. That means that being, say, short in stature is an even bigger handicap for men nowadays than men in times past. Many people holding the standard mainstream narrative say this is not true and that it's nothing but socially inept men whining about something they have no control over in order to avoid faulting themselves; but this is really just victim blaming by people who have the same biases towards attractive people as those that black pillers talk about so as to avoid admitting their i.e. the non-black pillers) own shallowness. I'm not saying it's NEVER true, as there genuinely are some black pillers out there who are simply lazy and refuse to do any work to improve themselves; but to say that people don't treat you differently based solely on looks (or to downplay just how much of an impact it has) is completely false and blatant willful ignorance, and invalidates the lived reality of many of these men. Many of them come across as harsh to the "advice" of others for this very reason—it's essentially gaslighting them (or it's just so vague and sounds so cliche that it's just not applicable because it doesn't explain the fine details and nuance and subtleties of how interactions are supposed to go since they never actually had them growing up, oftentimes due to the butterfly effect of them being physically unattractive making others less likely to socialize with them, thereby making them socially handicapped their whole lives for that reason).

Habibah bint Sahl was married to Thabit bin Qais bin Shammas, who was an ugly man. She said: 'O Messenger of Allah, (ﷺ) by Allah, were it not for fear of Allah when he enters upon me I would spit in his face.' The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: 'Will you give him back his garden?' She :said: 'Yes.' So she gave him back his garden and the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) separated them.

Sunan Ibn Majah 2057

I normally wouldn't consider a da'if hadith, but there have been others (i.e. those would be considered as "scholars" in our time) who have taken it and accepted it while also presenting some other corroborating evidence (i.e. other hadiths) for their support, so I figured some may accept it on that account (source 1, source 2, source 3, source 4, source 5, source 6, source 7). There's also apparently another hadith of the same narration in Musnad Ahmad with a different sanad saying the same exact thing (however, I'm finding conflicting hadith numbers for it, none of which appear to be the correct one; this is possibly due to different publishers or something of the sort).

The reason why I bring this is because I referenced this incident (via a different narration) in a previous post of mine (at the end). She said there was absolutely nothing wrong with him nor his deen, and in fact, Thabit bin Qais RA was one of the best men and was even promised paradise. But it appears that she just didn't want to be with him simply because he was unattractive. He was also the orator of the Prophet SAW and was of considerable influence among the Ansar; that means he had extremely high status within the society he was in, but that did not avail him here with his marriage(s). It just goes to show the importance of looks, I suppose...

Also, I want to address something: there are two types of narrations for whom this occurred to. One says that it was Jamilah bint Abdullah bin Ubay bin Salool (some say Jamilah bint Ubay bin Salool); the other says it was Habibah bint Sahl. Based on the hadiths I have read, there appears to be more reports claiming his wife was Habibah bint Sahl. There are also other narrations saying that he struck his wife and that's why she wanted a divorce, though there appears to be issues with the sanad in one of the ones I found that say that, plus the Prophet SAW said that those who beat their wives are not the best of men, while Thabit bin Qais RA was the best of men. It's also possible that I'm missing something simple (such as a possible name change, one of the names being an agnomen, both of them being 2 different people who were married to Thabit bin Qais and both said the same/similar things after being divorced by Thabit bin Qais, narrators mixing up events, etc.; based on the readings I've done, the latter 2 appear to be the most likely), but I digress. I only make mention of all this in case anyone looks hard enough at these sources and starts getting confused.

Sabra b. Ma'bad reported that Allah's Apostle (ﷺ) permitted his Companions to contract temporary marriage with women in the Year of Victory. So I and a friend of mine from Banu Sulaim went out, until we found a young woman of Banu Amir who was like a young she-camel having a long neck. We proposed to her for contracting temporary marriage with us, and presented to her our cloaks (as dower). She began to look and found me more handsome than my friend, but found the cloak of my friend more beautiful than my cloak. She thought in her mind for a while, but then preferred me to my friend. So I remained with her for three (nights), and then Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) commanded us to part with them (such women).

Sahih Muslim 1406g

This is the clearest black pill of all—a literal prostitute who has sex in exchange for money and/or anything else of value literally chose a man who was offering her less simply because he was more attractive.

The last black pill, and perhaps the greatest one of all of these, is the story of Nasr bin al Hajjaj.

It was the routine of Caliph Omar to patrol the streets of Madina; one night when he passed by one door he was astonished to hear the following verse of poetry from a married woman, who was saying "Is there a way to get some wine to drink, and is there a way to be with Nasr bin Hajjaj?”

Nasr ibn al-Hajjaaj

The story of ‘Umar’s exiling of Nasr ibn Hajjaaj from Madinah

I know Wikipedia isn't a good source, but they provided the briefest high-quality summary I could find, and also list valid sources too. IslamQA brought out other sources that confirmed it. Anyway, there's not really much else to say. If this doesn't show that sexual attraction is more important than simply being able to provide, I don't know what will. Sexual attraction is Rule 0 when it comes to women; it matters more than your ability to take care of her.

Some closing thoughts:

Many women in particular hate these discussions because it exposes how shallow they really are, and because a woman's reputation is everything to her, women take this as a personal attack on them when it's not meant to be such. In addition, all this going against the standard societal narrative compounds their opposition towards these discussions. Don't be fooled, though: they of all people intrinsically know & understand the black pill better than anyone, they just don't call it the "black pill"—they call it "pretty privilege". And EVERY woman knows and understands pretty privilege. To any woman reading this, that's all we're really talking about here, it's just pretty privilege from a man's perspective. That's all. Don't take it personal, we talk about all this because we love you, not because we hate you. We literally want to become more attractive to you all, hence all these discussions.

And as always, despite everything I tried showing you all through these posts, we thank Allah SWT for what we have. These shouldn't discourage any of you from pursuing marriage or anything like that, there are still things you can do to improve. In my forthcoming posts, I will detail exactly what we need to do to improve our physical attractiveness.

ٱلْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ رَبِّ ٱلْعَـٰلَمِينَ

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